Namaste

Many massage therapists that I see advertising in Sydney explicitly state that their service is non-sexual. I think that this is a really good thing to do. Communication is the key here (as with so many things).

If a massage therapist is concerned about being expected to provide a sexual service, then just state upfront in your advert, reading material, sign on the wall, that your service is not sexual.

It seems like a simple and effective solution to the problem to me.

For example, when was the last time your doctor was cupping your balls, or performing a vaginal exam, and you figured you’d just ask, “Hey, why not just jerk me off since you’re already halfway there?”.

Ridiculous. Keep that image in mind next time you consider illegally sexually harassing the next LMT you encounter. Great article, thanks for sharing.

Namaste

But in the uptight, Puritanical USA, this will probably never happens. And herein lies the problem, the “rub,” if you will allow me the pun.

There are a certain number of licensed massage therapists who are willing to provide a “happy ending,” an orgasm to their clients at the conclusion of the massage. Most reserve this sort of service for loyal and trusted clients, I would imagine.

I won’t speculate on percentages, etc. But I will tell you that personally, I have seen at least 10 LMTs over the past couple of decades that provided this service.

Yet, because this is illegal, they must maintain the “front” that they do not provide any such services. So they will still have signs in the lobby warning against unethical behavior, signs in the room telling clients that any sexual requests or inappropriate behavior will not be tolerated.

And yet, they still do it. Why? The obvious reason is bigger tips; men (including myself) are willing to pay as needed for these services. (And please note — I am referring only to manual stimulation, e.g. a “hand job.” Other activities which involve exchanges of bodily fluids are unsafe and are a different category of prostitution, in my opinion.)

Also, I think some LMTs see an orgasm as the natural conclusion to a massage, the most surefire way to encourage a complete relaxation of the human body. To me, a high-quality therapeutic massage concluded with an orgasm is one of the most serene experiences in life.

I do still see other LMTs who don’t provide “extras,” and I respect their boundaries and don’t attempt to push them. (Indeed, when I do find an LMT willing to provide extras, it is almost always him/her that makes the first move.)

But I find those massages are often unsatisfying, as I experience a degree of sexual arousal that makes relaxation nearly impossible. This is particularly true if the therapist spends time on parts of the body I happen to find erogenous, such as my thighs or abdomen. Often, I will masturbate myself to orgasm after the therapist has left the room and concluded the massage.

So while I understand your point that the ethics of your profession tell you that sexual contact is not allowed, many LMTs ignore that code of ethics and do it anyway. I believe that their own personal ethics tell override institutional ethics, and they don’t believe they are doing anything wrong. (Or, for a small minority, perhaps they do believe it is wrong, but they need/want the additional income.)

As I said, I’ve been getting massages for just over 20 years, all over the US. And I’ve consistently found a significant number of LMTs willing to provide happy endings. It’s not the majority of LMTs, at least in my experience. But I would say, just guessing, that 25-35% of LMTs I’ve known have been willing to provide that service. And of the remainder, some of them may have been willing to do so if I’d had the opportunity to become a more loyal and frequent client.

Just tossing my $0.02 in here, please feel free to flame away. But I do wish that providers of sensual massage could advertise their services openly. If they could do so, no one would ask the strictly therapeutic providers for these services. And wouldn’t that be best for us all?

As I noted in the post, you can find more information about human trafficking on humantrafficking.org or follow this link directly to the page for the statistics and facts about South Korea.

If I had written all of the facts and statistics for all of the countries mentioned in the post it would have been much too long of a read, which is why the link was inserted for reference.

Thanks for your comment.

Namaste